“Free and committed lover”
Right now, a group of young hopefuls are in Gran Canaria, where the dream is to find love.
They feel they have been looking for a long time, and think it may be hidden in a villa with a pool and parasols. The participants in the program largely agree on what they are looking for in a partner:
The other person must be kind, have a sense of humor, the conversation must flow and the person must be attractive.
The chemistry must be right, both spiritually and physically.
But once they’ve figured this out, they’re still looking for something more. They call it being open. It is interesting to follow.
It’s like they’re holding the door ajar.
Because they may be missing out on something or someone who has even more of what they want, if they commit to just one.
I watch shows like “Love Island” because I think they have an ability to tell us something about what’s going on in the present.
And our times seem to have a tendency to spread the oil thin, rather than thick, when it comes to love and relationships.
It’s like there’s something half-hearted and reserved about young people’s entry into romantic situations.
You don’t see this phenomenon only on “Love Island”, but everywhere in the modern dating world.
Dating apps like Tinder, where you have endless possibilities and potentially better alternatives, ebb and flow into sticky definitions like “situashionship”.
This works more as a pretext to shield vulnerable feelings, rather than diving into the waters that really matter.
If we enter a relationship half-heartedly, perhaps the relationship is in danger of becoming exactly half-hearted?
And if you reserve yourself for risk, you also reserve yourself for the gain. It becomes an unconsciously chosen loneliness.
Inside the villa, one participant says at one point:
Don’t step on my heart.
The statement contains a reminder that we humans are not a consumer product, but that we must recognize our full humanity and treat each other accordingly.
Openness can be a wonderful value if used correctly, and commitment gives us the freedom we seek if we commit to something or someone we love.
Take the time to really look inside the one in front of you and you will discover a different infinity than the one out there in the universe.
